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Hi Anu, I'm 29. I was living with my boyfriend in Pune for over two years. Last month, he told me he was going to Nagpur because his mom is unwell. We would chat occasionally because he told me there were connectivity issues. He didn't return my calls for 3 days. I found out from a mutual friend that his family arranged his engagement with someone else. When I confronted him, he said he didn't know how to say no to his parents. He says he still loves me, but is now confused. I feel betrayed and humiliated. I don't know how to react when he calls. He didn't even stand up for me and I introduced him to my parents and friends hoping I am going to spend my life with him.

My wife and I had an arranged marriage six years ago. She is kind and caring, but we haven't been intimate in over a year. She avoids all conversations around it. Whenever I try to get close or suggest something, she cuts me off, saying she's tired or uninterested. But she is normal with her friends. I suspect that she is seeing someone else. I've even suggested family counselling, but she says it's not necessary. I have told her that I have urges and I am managing on my own. I am feeling lonely, frustrated, and emotionally disconnected from her. I casually discussed this with an old married friend and realised that her husband is as unresponsive as my wife. Now we comfort each other and sometimes flirt harmlessly. Am I emotionally cheating? Should I seek counseling or is this marriage already over?

Anu, I saw your podcast on Rediff Are you being forced into marriage? My cousin is deeply in love with someone from her college. Both are 21, recently graduated. My uncle has clearly refused to accept them and is planning to send her abroad to live with our great uncle in Canada. We are a conservative family. Once she reaches Canada they plan to marry her off because she is being emotionally manipulated by our family. I know because I went through something similar. I couldn't contact my boyfriend and he was sent away to another city to look for a job. I waited for him but we couldn't communicate. Thankfully my husband understood and gave me time to accept him. I don't want to take that risk for my sister. I really want to help my cousin as her Canadian visa has already arrived. The boy belongs to a poor family and doesn't have a job yet. He has two elder sisters who are also dependent on him. He is a loving, hard working guy but they will need a few years to be financially independent. How can I help my sister? Please help.

I'm a software engineer from Bangalore. I am 28, and I am dating my girlfriend who is a Punjabi for four years now. She comes from a modern family, eats non veg and has a carefree lifestyle. She suggests we go for a live-in relationship, but my conservative Tamil parents strongly disapprove. They feel our cultures and lifestyle don't match and we should not hurt each others' emotions and families. Can a live-in relationship affect our future? What should I do?

I am drained, but also deep in love with someone I met online. I was dating this guy I met on Aisle for nearly 10 months. I am 23, he is 29. We had this beautiful connection but every few weeks he would withdraw, and stop replying. When I confronted he just said he felt 'overwhelmed so he took a break. I felt heartbroken. I started feeling as if I overtexted him. After a few days of silence, he said 'Sorry. I miss you. Are you free to talk?' We immediately reconciled and everything went back to normal for few months. Two weeks ago, he said he is going out with friends. He has been posting pics on social media but has been avoiding me. I haven't texted him too because I am scared he will say something to break my heart. What is this avoidant behaviour? Do you think he will break up with me soon? How long will this continue till things become normal?

My ex and I broke up mutually after dating for 3 years. We stayed in touch casually on WhatsApp. He told me he got a new job in Bangalore and signed up for a dating app. I didn't react. A few months ago, I found out that he's getting arranged-married. I congratulated him casually. Since then, he has been sending me long, emotional texts at night saying how much he misses me, how he misses my food, hugs, how I once used to be his home, safe place. I feel confused and emotionally triggered again. I do have feelings for him, but I am not sure if this is the right time to reconsider, especially since there is another girl in his life right now. He said wanted to talk to me and find out if there is hope. If I respond, I feel like I am emotionally cheating on his fiancee. I feel bad and long for our old days. But my roommate says I should block him immediately. I feel selfish wanting him back. I also miss his companionship. Honestly after our break up, I haven't been able to date again. But is it too late now? Or is this destiny's way of correcting my mistake? I am 32, he is 34.

I need some emotional support in making decision in my family. Can you guide me

hi mam please help me i was in relashionship for 1 year with a boy. we broke up after a huge fight it has been 6 months of our brokeup but he backmails me to leak my private pics and show them to my parents. although he blackmails me only once after that i blocked him from everywhere but he calls me daily with different numbers i didnot responded him at all . but he sounded like pscho he start messageging my frds and share my chats to them . i am so afraid of him i can not tell to my parents as my parents are not that open and very strict. i always start overthing please help me how to get out of it

Hi I am a lady aged 37 and I have been married for more than 17 years now...my husband has never allowed me to work,go out alone or give me money not that he can't afford...he takes care of his children when needed...now i started doing

Hello mam. I am 31, and married for three years. My husband and I both work and split expenses. Last month, I found out that he had booked a house with his mother without informing me. He excluded me completely and told me after the registration and stamp duty was paid. When I confronted him, he said it was for his mother's security. But what about mine? I cook, clean, work full-time, and yet, I wasn't considered in a major life decision. What kind of partnership is this? I am upset and he knows it. What should I do?

Anu mam, my wife and I have been married for 18 months. I have always grown up around girls. My best friends are girls, one is married, another is single. I have two sisters, one elder, one younger, who is not married and lives with us. She is in college and financially dependent on me. Two of my closest friends from office are also women, and nothing's ever happened between us. But now, my wife says it's inappropriate to chat with girls. If I am late from work, or stay up late replying to texts, she accuses me of hiding things but it's not true. The first time she got suspicious, I gave her my password, and even showed her my chat history, but it seems, it's not enough for her to trust. She says if I love her, I should choose her over 'outsiders.' How is this fair? I feel suffocated already. Will this marriage work?

, I have been married for almost 14 years and have a 10 year old. A few months ago my husband found some intimate chats of mine with someone else. I am extremely remorseful of my actions. Honestly those chats happened because my husband never showed me any love or concern. However I know that's not excuse to have those chats. After seeing those chats he got extremely angry and threw me out of the house. It's been more than 3 months. He is not willing to forgive me. He wants separation and he has told our daughter also that we are separated. I am so heartbroken that because of my blunder I lost my husband and daughter. Is there any way I can get back with my husband

Hi ma'am I'm 25 years old and my relationship with my parents is getting sour since a very long time they always want me to do everything that makes them happy and think about their happiness if I ever think about my happiness or do anything that makes me happy then they fight with me and portray me as a bad daughter and my dad has always said that if she will ever think about her happiness or do anything that makes her happy then I'm gonna leave everything and go so does my mom she also threatened to cut ties with me if I ever do anything that makes me happy my parents never supported me for anything they never ask me who I wanna get married to who I'll b happy with what profession i wanna take nothing but it's always about them in my family there are 16 members who have had love marriage and inter religion marriages my grandmother stays 15kms away from my house she has 3 kids 2 of her daughters had a love marriage one to a muslim one to a hindu her one daughter ran and got married to a hindu guy at that time my mom dad and her mom didn't even say a word but accepted him with open arms and my grandmother got her 2nd daughter married to her boyfriend who is a muslim during Covid 2020 without informing any of our relatives when my parents got to know about her daughters marriage they invited her for lunch at my place they didn't even say a word or opposed that marriage but accepted him with open arms and showered them with love When I fell in love with a hindu guy my mom started to seperate me from him and she is telling everyone to brainwash me to leave the person person I love and find a suitable Christian guy for me when ever we go to my grandmother's house my mom always brings up my boyfriend's topic and start fighting with me infront of them we went there 3 times and all the 3 times she fighted with me and told everyone to brainwash me my mom always support my grandmother's children if anything happens to them she will call them 10 times and ask how they are and when my grandmother was ill treating me my mom didn't even take a stand for me or raised her voice for me but she was watching everything as a movie is going on when I was crying after we came back to my house my mom didn't even ask me what am I going through she always support my grandmother who did bad with me if they will say not to let her work and get her married my mom will listen to her and her daughters and my grandmother also started forcing me that I should also listen to her and get married to a guy who they choose and i should not at all think about my happiness and what makes me happy in my life and i should think about her and my parents happiness and my uncle who lives in Hyderabad he also started to get interfere in my personal life since the time he got to know I fell in love with a hindu guy he also started to seperate me from him and forcefully get me marriage to a guy of his choice my uncle's wife has been expired 15 years back and this age he has a girlfriend who lives in banglore she is a divorcee and her daughter is also a divorcee who he met in Facebook i didn't interfere in anyone's personal life or seperated them from their boyfriend or girlfriend and everyone who have had love marriages in my family and everyone are happy with their partners when it comes to me my parents uncle my grandmother and her daughters who have had love marriage always try to seperate me from my boyfriend and forcefully get me married to a Christian guy if anyone in my family will fall in love with a inter religion person then he/she is a good guy/girl according to them if I fall in love they seperate me from him and forcefully get me Married to a Christian guy i told my parents many times to talk to him and know him but they are like no we don't like him and they always say he is not a good person and always judge my boyfriend even without talking or knowing him once but for others even without talking to their partners they say he is a good person and they will accept him with open arms and also invite them for lunch and everything and will always stay at their place during trips but if I do they will mentally harass me to leave the person I love and get married to a guy of their choice recently we went to Bangalore for my sister's marriage who also had a love marriage at that time my uncle had come to the wedding and he was asking my mom did u brainwash her to leave him and get her married to someone else and my mom was saying yes I did with my aunt's daughter who also had love marriage I don't understand why they always try to seperate me from the person I love and forcefully get me married to someone else who I'm not at all interested in when I'm telling them about him they are not ready to listen to me at all plus they are mentally harassing me to leave him if I take help of any of my relatives who had love marriages in this matter they will not listen to me but force me to listen to my parents and do as they say what should I do ma'am I'm shattered

Hello I am 24, from Noida. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 years. I have introduced her to all my friends but she refuses to post pictures of us online, saying she values privacy. I have not met any of her friends. She says she doesn't have any. She hasn't added me on Instagram. I find her staying up late online. She doesn't respond to my texts. Once she accidentally called me from a different number and instantly hung up. Since then the number is switched off. I have confronted her but she doesn't want to discuss these things. I feel our relationship is like a secret game to her. If I refuse to buy her stuff she would block me for a few days. Is this normal behaviour. Should I worry?

Ravi Sir, Hi. I'm 27, engaged through a family-arranged match. My fiance is kind, well-settled, and earns 2 lakh monthly. His mother is a bit authoritative. My father-in-law is sweet. I have met him and his family a few times, but I don't feel any physical or emotional spark between us. I've tried to flirt with him, but there is no chemistry, which is very odd to me. When I told my parents, they said this is normal. They showed me examples of how love can grow after marriage, but honestly, I am not sure. Is it wrong to expect your partner to be romantic? Our marriage is in October. Should I call off this wedding just because there's no attraction? We have spent 3 lakhs already on the engagement and in August we plan to book the wedding hall. Pls advise

Am Hindu Rajput from bihar and the guy I liked is hindu jain from Delhi we want to marry but my parents are not allowing his parents are ready but my parents are not.. I don't know what to do.?

My parents, married for 30 years now, yell at each other. My father keeps showing my mother down while she keeps playing victim card in front of me. I am emotionally drained since 10-12 years. Now I live away but I am too lonely now. I don't have any relationship outside, no good friends and close connection. Every friend I have are very selfish because of my achievements and stipend. My brother too is distant and doesn't care about anything related to family. He too loves separately. I am unable to keep my mental peace and constantly feel the need for someone. What should I do. I am a 25 yr old female currently into MTech

Hi my brother married 6 months ago we come to lnow that girl is alredy married we get in the property document how we prove my wife cheat on me and finally how we get dovorce from that girl

i remarried(prior widow)(39),took my daughter(14) along in this new marriage, now i hv a daughter(7) from this marriage, its been 8 years now,my husband keeps fighting on money as i am a homemaker now,as there is no one to look after, we are from different caste, thus he fights on food preparation too,we had agreed before marriage,that if his mum looks after the future kid i m willing to work, but that did not happen,he is extremely fussy about some foods and likes only few veggies or preparations,but is open when mom makes,thus he does not even take tiffin,i dont understand what should i do,he keeps on taunting on previous life,as my 1st husband was not earning,thus i used to go,now as there is no one to look after i told him,as he earns well, there is no need for me to go for a job,but he is insisting,i receive partial rent from my dads property,which i pay part rent and he pays part,he pays for food,his home loan SIP. i dont understand what is the problem,my daughter is not ready for babysitting,she gets upset.i always ask him what should i prepare today,he fights on that too, i just want to make what he likes.plz help

M 51 and she is 23 we met in office, we came up with relationship not totally of having sex but as attraction turned into love so many time like we kiss hug and caress each other but in My mind never thought about to have sex and sometimes she also was eager to have sex but she also denied later in office many of them had doubt of our relationship so some brain washed her mind and now she wants to end and she told me to discontinue as ahe factory and marriage can't be done as I m married with one kid, as also she has fear of her mother and family, ahe sometime says I got married and even now she wll get married to someone but end of this relationship but My feelings of truly love hurts me and I feel should I call her once and have sex so she will not think about ending relationship till marriage but My mind says it's wrong as I truly love her, what should I do to make her to stay or be with me as till she get married pls suggest I m in truly love can't able to sleep and too much stress became in My mind

Inam finding difficulty to get second marriage after my first marriage ended in divorce. I am 39 year female. Please suggest ways to get a good companion how to choose at this age and also I am looking guy with no issues/children and within same community which I belong.

I am 20 yrs old female studying Btech from a prestigious institute. I am in relationship with a guy, 24 yrs old and is in central psu..However he has said that he cannot commit me a future now as his parents are strict about caste..and I don't belong to the same caste as his.. However, both of us want to continue the relationship..he has asked me to wait and said that he will try to convince his parents..but he hasn't done that yet..should I ask him to talk to his parents? But Im afraid that would make our relationship bitter, or should I breakup because it kind of Feels like he is not quite ready to discuss the matter with his parents...also I feel like I'm too young to bother regarding such a matter..but this thing disturbs the peace of my mind..I'm clueless...please suggest something

Hi , I am 26 years old and married for four months now , I have a good relationship with my husband and in laws while staying in their home. My parents stay at a distance of 30 mins from my in laws home , while my parents expect me to be with them at least two days a week , I have tried to cut the days down. Now I am with my husband but as my father went out of the station for 5-6 days and my mom can't stay alone , I want to go and support her. Is that correct? I am with my husband from past 8 days nonstop n didn't go to my parents, now if I go it seems to have a problem with my in laws as they think I am going to my home very often

Recently , that guy 's wife has not been with him for last three months. Their son is in school of my daughter. He is missing his school. He has been living alone for all these time. He now would walk behind us or in front of us. I don't know why he walks near to us. I know we live in same society but after dispute we tried to avoid each other . But that guy always come behind us. Not making eye contact but being around us . What does he want ??? After so much of fight , he is hoping for some good . I want to tell him clearly that I have nothing to do with him but I'm scared . I don't know how he will take it. Also , I'm ignoring him a lot but sometimes I get disturbed bz of his weird behaviour . Pls share some suggestions on how to make him understand that there is no hope left or what does he want now ??

Hello Ma'am, I have been married for almost 14 years and have a 10 year old. A few months ago my husband found some intimate chats of mine with someone else. I am extremely remorseful of my actions. Honestly those chats happened because my husband never showed me any love or concern. However I know that's not excuse to have those chats. After seeing those chats he got extremely angry and threw me out of the house. It's been more than 3 months. He is not willing to forgive me. He wants separation and he has told our daughter also that we are separated. I am so heartbroken that because of my blunder I lost my husband and daughter. Is there any way I can get back with my husband

I'm a 41-year-old businessman. I live in Ahmedabad with my wife and two kids, aged 12 and 8. Whenever I come home from a trip, my wife starts blaming me for everything that happened during the week. I call her every day and all I get to hear is I am a bad husband and father. She expects me to be home by 7 every day. She knows I am a businessman and my work timings are never fixed. I travel for work and meetings so I make up once a week by spending time with the kids. She feels it's not enough. We have hired maids to help my wife but she never takes responsibility. She never appreciates my hard work or how I struggle to give them a good life. She is always been complaining about something. Is this emotional manipulation or just bad communication?

I never had the courage to share this with anyone, but after watching a lot of recent movies, I feel I must share this with someone. I've been married to my wonderful wife for 8 years. We have two young kids, 6 and 4. A few years ago, I had a one-time affair with a colleague during an office offsite. It was an emotionally charged moment, but the affair was a brief one. I got a bit too carried away. It's been 2 years and 3 months. We work in the same office, and I'm overwhelmed with guilt. I haven't told anyone. She is single, and we go out on casual dates, even harmless flirting, but never discussing the event. She asked me if I would ever confess this to my wife. I said No, because she is very close to my family now. I'm scared of losing my family, but at the same time, I feel like a fraud every day. This guilt is not letting me sleep. But if I confess, I don't know how my wife will respond. Things may not go back to normal. Isn't it better to silently carry the guilt? Please suggest what to do.

Why do men ghost after sex? I met this amazing guy on Hinge. He was 27, well-mannered, and worked in a data firm in Mumbai. We spoke daily for three months and had amazing chemistry. From music to food, we discussed everything under the sun. We went on a couple of dates to get to know each other. When we got comfortable, we got intimate and eventually had consensual s** at his friend's house party. One week after we got intimate, he just vanished. No replies, no calls. It was my first time, so I kept wondering if I had done something wrong to upset him. My friend says it could be post-intimacy guilt. But I feel embarrassed, ashamed. I can't shake off the shame. Did I move too fast? Is this how dating works now? How can I go back to feeling normal again?

Hi I am a divorced women and very recently a married handsome colleague approached me and we started flirting soon we got little intimate , now I have developed feelings for him where as he is a Casanova and open about the fact that he has multiple physical incidents outside his marriage, he love is wife and do it for fun with no emotional baggage or connect. I am not able to detach myself from him now, his behaviour towards me keeps on changing and very recently he has started flirting with other girls in front of me and ignoring me . I feel emotionally drained and weak , I cry and feel hurt, what should I do

Hlo mam my name is harpreet kaur and I love the person whos name is ArjunSehgal we are intercaste i m in big tension will our parents aggree for marriage

Mere sath kuch time se aisa ho rha hai ki mai logo se milne unse baat krne me apne aap meri puri body kaapne lagti jise mai bhut control karne ki kosish karti hu but kar ni paati hu jiske wajah se mai kisi se even apni family se bhi baat ni kr paa ri hu mujhe kahi bhi jaane se darr lagne laga hai. khushi me mauke me bhi khush ni ho paati but aisa ni h ki mai hona chahti, mai hona chahti hu but wo mere control me bilkul bhi ni hota hai. ye chize meri social life ko bhut effect daal ri hai. sometimes to aisa hota hai ki meri heartbeat bhut fast ho jati hu, chest me pain hone lgta hai. mujhe meri problem hi samajh ni aa rahi. Meri sleep schedule and khana bhi sb proper hai but fr bhi ye mere sath kyu ho rha mujhe bilkul bhi smajh ni aa rha h. mai kiske paas jau kisse help lu mujhe kuch bhi samajh ni aa raha please help me

Mera LVH mild aaya hai.age 42..tension aor depression rahta hai ..kaam m man nai lagta hai..

Hello gurus.. I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ... But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust . So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother .. Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide... And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce. My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice... Kindly advice what should I advise him ...

Hello Anu Mam, I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ... But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust . So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother .. Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide... And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce. My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice... Kindly advice what should I advise him ...

When I was in MBA first year . I had a boyfriend from ma graduation and now we have completed 9 year happy and we decided that we will say it to your Parents but when I was in MBA 1 YEAR we went to water park and we had some normal photo and video and after 3 year some today spread ot all our my village. Because of that my father took me home and told me to leave job and he want me to marry the one I don't like and he thinks more about the other people. He says me that I have to do what he want Because I love other more than me. And now he is forcing me to stay home and my uncle is harrasing me badly but still my father support him. I tried to took help to police but my father has lots of money do he is not afraid of than. Now what to do can someone help me

So I had breakup I dont know but things happen so drastically he has given commitment to me that he will marry me we was in a relationship for 5.5 years of relationship I was already married to him in my mind we was also physically involved he started his business in partnership of sandwichs I understand he was quite busy but he did not message me for 3 long days I used to remain confused about where he is and what he is doing I ask for clarity to him than he said that he cannot take it anymore and cannot handle me as He was not even messaging me he had ghost me I asked him if he like another girl but he said no the guy once was committed to me suddenly said he cannot take it he ended it and move on , I am in middle of Cat preparation everything just sucks that I lost my virginity too It attacks my confidence I feel my life had ended as because who will accept a girl with past in this "No seal No deal" era I am not a object or product I am a human being My boyfriend move on what I will do stck in there but will I ever endup in happy married life with such past, Can I share this past to anyone or keep it as a hidden secret with me only

Dear Ms Rai, I am dealing with an increasingly toxic dynamic at work. A junior colleague from a top B-school who has recently been hired repeatedly challenges me in front of my team. Though it's all subtle, it's compromising my authority. I feel increasingly stressed, irritable, and helpless in his presence. I understand he is young and I don't want to retaliate or look insecure, but I'm mentally beginning to wear out. How do I maintain boundaries and self-respect in such situations?

Dear Ms Rai, I'm engaged to a guy my parents introduced me through an arranged marriage set up. Initially, everything seemed fine, but over the last few months, I've noticed that my fiance only discusses physical intimacy, which is making me uncomfortable. I have tried to tell him but I don't feel an emotional connection with him. I am hesitant to express this to my family or his. How should I approach this situation?

My elder brother got married of his own choice past 12 years ago regardless the parents decision and lived by himself, he has two sons aged 10 and 5, after a recent scenario between him and his wife, they both are not into good terms since 8 months which is impacting on the kids and their upbringing. My brother is a field relationship manager in a real estate company and earning his bits, struggling with life and work. He has no financial and family support..as a younger brother I listen to all his struggle and troubles and advice him accordingly. All of these things are draining my mental and physical health . I myself struggling as a lawyer having my mom dad and grandmother with their health issues ..I am not able to make a firm decision on the scenario, should my brother and his wife get seperated? If yes please explain.

madm i m 50 y old from mumbai with my 2 son and wife, after my younger son complete his computer engi i advice him for ms from usa its full family agree so we areange fund near 1 crore and today after he complete his ms got job with big company with crores pakcage now he is planning his future and if a told hin and its his recponsbilty family and my secound son then stoped takling with me madam what shoud i do i m very disturb because i spent my all fund and loan also and mentel peice also how can i handle this

Hello mam, I'm 31 and married for 4 years. My husband wants to know where I am all the time. He checks my phone, and even questions why I spoke to a male colleague. He says it's because he loves me. But I feel suffocated. I can't even meet my own friends without causing a drama at home. Is this normal? Or am I just being over-sensitive?

I am 28 and I have been married for 8 months. We live with my husband's parents, and I feel constantly scrutinised for how I dress, what I cook, even how I talk. My husband avoids taking sides and asks me to 'adjust' and understand. I am starting to feel anxious and isolated. How do I maintain my mental peace?

Sir, I am 24, I have recently started using dating apps, and I'm already bored. Most guys just want casual chatting or they disappear after talking for a few days. First they say I really like you, then they ignore me. I get my hopes up and end up feeling used. My parents have started looking for rishtas and say I'm wasting time. I want a real relationship, but I don't want to rush into arranged marriage either. Am I being unrealistic?

Ravi Sir, I've been dating this girl for over 3 years now. I have done everything for her, supported her when she changed her job, dealt with her family drama, and emotional breakdowns. Our parents and friends know about us too. She is now in a better job and mental space. I am 34, she is 31. Last week, I took her on a date. She was looking beautiful and I thought we should discuss our future. She simply ignored. When I asked again she said 'I'm not ready for anything serious now.' I was so hurt and betrayed. I felt like she used me during her bad time. She just continued to eat and drink through the rest of the conversation while I was trying to control my emotions. She didn't even text me after I dropped her home. Was I just a temporary comfort? It's been five days. She is online but hasn't texted me. I want some clarity, because I loved her whole heartedly.

Hello coach. I am dating a 42 yr old man who is almost perfect for marriage. He is kind, successful, and we have a great chemistry. But there is a problem. He says he never wants kids. The thing is I want to be a mother someday. I feel so bad about this. Everything else is so right. Should I give up on him or continue the relationship hoping that he will change his mind?

I am 42 yrs old holding a senior position in an organization. I am married with 11 yrs old son. I am attracted toward my colleague who is also of my age and holding same position. She also expects complement from me like how is she looking in a particular dress and new hairstyle. She discusses very personal things like her gynic issues etc. Whenever she sits near me, she sits very close almost touching my body. I dont know whether she is also attracted towards me. I am in dilemma, should I express my feelings or not. Sometimes i think that I should totally ignore her and let these feelings die. I ignored her for 2 months but became more restless and ultimately started talking to her. Please help me how to come out of this situation

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