Dear sir , I'm 32 years old. I have lent money from an acquaintance of 15 lakhs with an monthly interest of 45k. And I have also lent another 4.5 lakhs with monthly interest of 38k from another friend. These were used to close all the small loans from third party apps with a very high interest. I also have small personal loans .
1. 1,70,000 with 8,000 emi and around 2 years of tenure remaining m
2. 2,50,000 with 6,000 emi and around 2.5 years tenure.
3. 1,00,000 with 6,000 emi and around 1.5 year tenure .
I have an monthly income of around 30k. And I Currently do not possess any form of savings , assets or investments. How do I get out of this loop of constantly getting another debt to repay another one ? I work in the fitness industry so there's no scope of earning more than 10k from my current salary in India even though I have more experience in this field.
Ans: Your concern is valid and very real.
You are 32 years old.
You earn Rs 30,000 monthly.
You have borrowed heavily from acquaintances.
You also hold three personal loans.
You are stuck in a debt loop.
You want a practical and long-term solution.
Let us now give you a detailed 360-degree strategy.
Understanding the Complete Debt Picture
Rs 15 lakhs loan from acquaintance, paying Rs 45,000 monthly interest
Rs 4.5 lakhs from another friend, paying Rs 38,000 monthly interest
Personal loans: Rs 1.7L, Rs 2.5L and Rs 1L
EMI on personal loans: Rs 8,000 + Rs 6,000 + Rs 6,000 = Rs 20,000
Total monthly outgo on debt: Rs 1,03,000
Your income is only Rs 30,000
You are in deep negative cash flow every month
You are likely borrowing more to pay interest and EMIs
There are no assets, savings, or investments right now
Appreciating Your Decision to Seek Help
You have taken a bold first step.
You have recognised the problem clearly.
You want to stop the debt cycle.
That shows willingness to act and change.
This mindset will help you come out of this.
Let's now move step by step.
Step 1: Stop Borrowing Further, Even for a Day
No more loans from anyone, under any situation
Stop all app-based loans completely
Inform friends that you cannot borrow more
Every new loan worsens the trap
Any money borrowed now will increase your pain
Accept this truth today and stay strong on it
Step 2: Understand That You Cannot Continue Like This
You are paying Rs 1.03 lakhs interest and EMI
Your income is Rs 30,000
This math can never work
You are surviving through borrowed time and favours
You are in a debt trap right now
It will not go away on its own
You must act boldly and wisely
Step 3: Discuss a Structured Debt Settlement with Lenders
First, talk to the friend who gave Rs 15 lakhs
Show him your situation openly
Request to stop monthly interest for some time
Offer to pay a fixed EMI instead of interest
Do not avoid or delay conversations
People respect honesty and intention to repay
Next, approach the friend who gave Rs 4.5 lakhs
Follow the same approach
Suggest converting monthly interest into a longer-term EMI
Offer a token amount monthly
Rework the payment terms to suit your capacity
Involve a family elder if it helps build trust
Step 4: Consolidate All Personal Loans If Possible
Check if you can get a single loan to close all personal loans
Target is to reduce EMI burden
You may not get loan from bank due to low credit
Try to get help from a family member to get a low-interest personal loan in their name
Only to consolidate existing EMIs, not new borrowing
If this is not possible, maintain current EMIs
Prioritise loans with highest interest
Keep communication open with lenders
Avoid missing EMIs to protect your credit score
Step 5: Cut All Possible Expenses Immediately
Stop non-essential expenses like:
- OTT subscriptions
- Dining out
- Online shopping
- Gym expenses if you can self-train
- Fuel and travel which can be avoided
Shift to a more affordable living setup if needed
Speak to landlord to reduce rent temporarily
Share accommodation if possible
Buy basic groceries only, no luxury items
Use cash to control daily expenses
Maintain a diary of every rupee spent
Step 6: Increase Income with Secondary Work
You said fitness jobs limit income
But look for add-on work during free time
Some ideas:
- Online fitness coaching from home
- Recording videos for online classes
- Selling fitness guides or diet plans
- Helping with social media content for fitness brands
- Freelance training for apartment gyms
Aim for Rs 5,000–Rs 10,000 extra monthly
Every bit of income helps reduce debt burden
Use these earnings strictly to pay back lenders
Step 7: Avoid Any Investment Till All Loans Are Closed
No SIP, no stocks, no mutual funds now
Do not fall for quick return promises
You are in debt repayment phase
Investment can come later, not now
Keep focus only on clearing loans
Step 8: Seek Free Counselling If Emotionally Drained
Debt creates mental pressure
It may cause anxiety or fear
Speak to someone who listens, not judges
Use free helplines or NGOs offering support
Don’t suffer alone silently
Keep your mind strong and focused
This is a temporary phase, not permanent
Your future can change with effort
Step 9: Once Stable, Start Emergency Fund Slowly
After you clear high-interest debts
Start saving Rs 500–Rs 1000 monthly
Put in liquid mutual fund via regular plan
Avoid direct plans – they offer no guidance
Certified Financial Planner can guide better
Use emergency fund only for urgent needs
Never use for shopping or travel
Keep building it month by month
Step 10: Finally Build a New Financial Identity
Clear your loans step by step
Rebuild your credit slowly
Start tracking income and spending every month
Stay away from lending apps permanently
Create small savings habit after debts are over
Start SIP with Rs 1000 in regular equity fund when possible
Review goals with Certified Financial Planner yearly
Learn to say ‘No’ to money offers when not needed
Finally
You are in a serious but solvable financial crisis
Accept it, face it and work on it
Stop new borrowing right now
Restructure old debts with honesty and clarity
Cut lifestyle expenses sharply
Create new income channels in fitness or beyond
Don't try to invest until debts are closed
Once stable, build emergency and investment habit
Use mutual funds with regular plan and guided help
Stay away from index and direct funds for now
This problem is hard but not permanent
With small steps and strong action, you can come out
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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